What kind of problems can The Work help with?

 

The Work can be applied to any stressful thought. And since thoughts comprise the whole gamut of lived experience, the Work can be applied on any Topic. 

 

Here are some actual thoughts that I have found freedom from while either facilitating others or being facilitated myself in the Work. This is only “a sample” to show that no thought is too trivial nor too big to be inquired upon using the Work. 

 

The common pronoun “they” has been used to represent he/she or they.

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1. Relationships & Interpersonal Conflict

• Behavior: "They are unreasonable," "They don’t have manners," "They shouldn't blame others for their problems", "They shouldn’t cry," "They are unpleasant to me"

• Trust: "I want them to be truthful," "They lied to me," "They should have believed me," "They abandoned me"

• Conflict: "Their temper is difficult," "They are attacking me," "They are controlling me," "They keep defending their choices," "They are nitpicking"

• Expectations: "I want them to be compassionate," "I want them to be more humble," "They should follow the rules" ”I need to be most important to them,” ”They should be available for me”

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2. Social Approval & Self-worth

• Need for Respect: "They don’t respect my words," "They do not trust my experience," "I want them to take me seriously," "They should not steal my thunder"

• Fear of Judgment: "They will find me superficial," "They believe I am not a good enough [Role]" 

• Exclusion: "They do not care about me," "They are selfish to exclude me," "They only choose him," ”They should be my friend”

• Self-Deprecation: "I am a terrible [Role],", "I am a failure," "I am too much for them"

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3. Health, The Body & Vitality

• The Body: "It betrays me," "It is self-sabotaging," "It is a burden to my family," "It has too many problems", "I am unattractive," "I am addicted to sugar" 

• Ability: "The pain keeps me from a happy life," "I need my body to be able to dance," "My body should become mobile," "I am disabled"

• Medical System: "Doctors are not cooperating with me," "They don’t listen to me", "The medicine is screwing me" 

• Mind: "My mind is too troublesome," "My problems are unending," "This is too much for me"

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4. Professional Success and Security

• Performance: "I will not speak well," "I screwed it up," "This will ruin their performance," "I should be productive and useful," "I don’t get it right"

• Management: "They are a poor example," "They are not ethical," "They are unfair," "They will give a bad deal," "This is not worth my effort", "They will get upset with me."

• Agency and Money: "I am dependent on [Name]," "I am so needy," "They will stop us" "We don’t have the money to [Action]," "The money is so delayed"

• Safety: "I am unsafe," "They will shout at me," "I will push them"

 

5. Inquiry/ Life

• The Work community: "They are masking their disagreement in spiritual speak," "They weaponize the Work," "They are not enabling the Work to grow"

• Reality: "Something is wrong with them," "There’s something wrong with me," "They should have it easier," "Life is rushing me," "It is going to be hard"

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Curious to know if the Work can really help with YOUR unique stresses?